Life giving words

January 20, 2018

I’m gonna be real with you guys for a sec. One of the things that gets me going is negativity. When other people speak negative and hurtful words to their friends, kids, siblings, or another person. Things that can’t be unsaid. Things that can hurt you. Those words stick with people, and they affect us in so many ways.

I know that my parents & family always try to surround us with positive words and positive thinking. I can’t tell you how thankful I am for a family who speaks life-giving words to us. It’s shaped us into the people we have become. It’s made us who we were meant to be, and it’s changed our whole way of thinking. Our families are the ones we’re usually always with, so it’s important to build each other up and encourage them, instead of speaking negative words to them.

Our brain takes everything we say literal, even if we don’t think it does. It’s so easy to use unconscious language and talk without thinking, which often leads to bringing others down, and saying things we don’t actually mean. If we start choosing conscious language, that can benefit us and so many people around us.

“A careless word can shape—or misshape—someone’s reality for years to come.”

Ephesians 4:29 is key –

“Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.”

Philippians 4:8 says to fix our THOUGHTS on whatever is true, and honorable, and just, and pure, and lovely, and commendable, and excellent, and praiseworthy. Whatever we say is a reflection of our heart. Our actions, and words start out as thoughts, that’s why it’s so important to think before we speak. So, if our thoughts & words don’t match Philippians 4:8, then it’s probably better if we don’t say anything 😉

Building each other up, and speaking positive, life giving words to each other, even our family, is so important. Our words can either hurt or heal.


Never Alone

September 26, 2017

The past couple months, it’s been hard for me to really grasp the fact that God is with me. Not only in the silence, but also in the crazy chaos of everyday. I was reading a post from this girl, and she was talking about confession, how it’s so important to have accountability, and for you to have those people you can talk to anything about. I started praying for someone that would come along side me, help me, and just let us be open with each other. I started praying to be able to see Gods hand in every area of my life. I started praying for God to help me see and recognize that He is with me every day. I hope I’m not the only person that feels this way. It’s hard sometimes to believe when we can’t physically see God. But He calls us to walk by faith, not by sight.

This past week, all of those prayers have been answered. When God speaks, you know. It’s so clear and so good. I’m gonna be honest with you. I was praying a few days ago and just asked God where He was taking me, and where He was. I know that once you’re saved, the Holy Spirit is always with you, but I was caught up in the business of this world, and didn’t have time to slow down and just listen to what God was telling me. When I was silent, and stopped thinking about what needed to do, or who I needed to talk to, and got the focus off of myself, He spoke. I think that’s the reason we don’t notice that God is with us, or it’s hard for us to hear from Him and differentiate what type of voices we’re hearing. We’re too caught up with us. We only think about ourselves and what we wanna do. I know I’m guilty of this, and it’s hard to take your eyes off yourself and look towards God and others before yourself.

I went to our youth group on Wednesday night & then church on Sunday & they both taught how God is with us. He never abandons us. The Holy Spirit is with us everywhere we go. Even if it’s just to get some coffee, or to go to the store. God never leaves us. He’s not only present when we’re thinking about Him, or when we’re praying. He continually surrounds us with His presence. When God speaks, it’s so amazing.

I know when I start thinking about why I feel this way, or don’t always feel like God is with me, I beat myself up. That’s exactly what the devil wants us to do. He hates when we look towards God and give Him our problems. The devil wants us to focus on ourselves all day and make us feel bad for feeling certain ways. When we shift our focus to God instead of ourselves, our worldly problems seem smaller. We see how amazing God is. We see ourselves how God sees us, radically loved. We see how near God is to us.

Friends, life is hard. We don’t always see how things are gonna work out, (and if you’re like me, that can drive you crazy 😉 ), how God is gonna use our situations to bring glory to Him, and we’re not always gonna feel like God is near. But we shouldn’t rely on our feelings. Choose facts instead of fear. And the fact is that God is with us, every single moment. Whether we feel like it, or not.

It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you, He will not leave you, or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed. -Deuteronomy 31:8


Strengths & Weaknesses

September 12, 2017

It’s sometimes hard, but it’s so good to identify our strengths and our weaknesses. It’s so easy to say what we’re good at, and what our strengths are, but we never like to tell people what areas we’re weak in and what we struggle with. I’m gonna be honest with you guys and tell you what my weaknesses and strengths are. And it’s ok to talk about your strengths and be proud and appreciative with what God’s given you. So lets start out with strengths because that’s always the better one 😉

One of my strengths is that I’ve learned how to be a good friend & how to be there for my friends, not only when everything is good, but also when they need someone there with and for them. I’m not at all saying this out of pride or selfishness, I just want you guys to know that it’s ok to identify your strengths and run with ’em!

Now, here’s one of my biggest weaknesses. Comparison. I know 99% of girls struggle with this so I’m here to help a sista out. I feel like some days I constantly compare myself to others. Not only body image, but personalities, circumstances, and many other things. People tell me allll the time “Steph, but you’re fine the way you are. You don’t need to be any different.” And stuff along those lines. Even though I’ve heard it a million times, it didn’t help me with anything until I heard someone say this –

Your greatest weakness is a strength redirected.

Dang. As soon as I heard that, I decided I wasn’t gonna let the lies that the devil keeps telling me affect me in such a great way. I know we still have weaknesses, but if we look at them as strengths that are redirected instead of weaknesses, that’s gonna be so helpful, and we can start to change. So, for example, the way I can use comparison as a strength is instead of saying “Oh, she’s prettier, skinnier, funnier, nicer… than I am” I can say, “Wow, she’s amazing, she’s nice, she’s gorgeous” without questioning myself. So we need to be building each other up instead of constantly being in that state of comparison.

Our brains take everything we say literally. Even if we don’t think so, it holds onto things & takes everything we say to ourselves literally. That’s why we need to wrap ourselves in truth & love. Everything we tell ourselves and believe starts out as a thought. Our thoughts become words, our words become actions. Our actions become habits, and our habits become our lifestyle. It’s so important to guard our minds and dwell on the truth. Each one of us is different from everyone, but that’s the exact way God made us and He made us that way for a purpose. In my days of dealing with this, here’s the truth I love to remind myself of.

  • For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. – Galatians 1:10
  • The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. – Psalm 23:1
  • Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, or what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air. They neither sow nor reap, nor gather into barns and yet your heavenly father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? – Matthew 6:25
  • Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. -Philippians 4:8

I promise you, I don’t have all this figured out & I still struggle with my weaknesses sometimes, but it’s so much easier when I remember how I can view my weaknesses, and that I  have Gods truth to lean on and lead me.




August 21, 2017

This week has been a week that I never thought would happen. There have been moments on top of the mountain and moments so deep in the valley. It’s hard to put into words what it feels like. Through it all, Jesus never left us. Don’t get me wrong, there have been plenty of times where I felt like God isn’t even here and I’m afraid. That’s just it though. I started thinking about it, and our society is all about “I feel this way”, instead of facts. I felt like God wasn’t with me, because I was focused on myself instead of the fact that God is with me. I started reading the Bible and God always starts out giving a command, followed by a promise. He said multiple times “Do not be afraid, I will never leave you” or “Therefore, go and I will be with you.” He always ends it with “I will be with you”, or something along those lines.

I think people are fearful. When someone is living for the Lord, the devil attacks in so many ways. People doing awful things to you, talking about you, and whatever the devil can do to make you look away from Jesus. And when we look away from Jesus, that’s when fear sets in. When fear overtakes your thinking, it cripples you. You no longer do the things you’re passionate about, because you’re afraid you’ll fail. You no longer do the right thing, because you’re afraid of what people will think about you. You no longer live the best life that God has for you, because you’re afraid of what you’ll look like or what He’ll make you “do”. Fear cripples us. God says He will never leave us. It’s a fact. It’s not just for when we feel like He’s here. He’s always here, in the midst of good and bad. We just have to decide that we’re gonna believe it no matter what we feel.

With all the crazy things happening this week, I am so thankful for my family, & friends for encouraging me and walking with me towards Christ. You guys, it is so important to surround yourself with positive people! We become who we hang around.

I encourage you guys to choose facts, instead of feelings, and love instead of fear. It’s amazing what God can show us and how He can work through us when we’re living out His love.



Happiness vs. Joy

August 13, 2017

People very often say “money and things can’t buy you happiness.” I disagree with that. I think money & things CAN buy you happiness. I think money and earthly things can bring SO much happiness. But happiness is temporary and fading. I know that money & things can’t bring you joy. Joy is the result when we put our hope and trust into something that won’t fade away. Something that’s eternal.

I know that so many people have lots of money, and they have pretty much everything they’ve ever wanted. And you know what? They’re empty. They say they’re lost and feel hopeless. But, they were happy for awhile when they got the new car they wanted, or they went on their dream vacation. They were happy for a while, until those things started to fade away.

I’m completely guilty of this, and I know i’m not alone. It’s hard to hope in something that we can’t see, & it’s so easy to put our happiness in these worldly things that we can get almost immediately. Our world has come to a point where we can get things immediately, and it’s so good sometimes, but sometimes, its not. When Jesus calls us to trust and WAIT, it’s hard for us to do that. But in 1 John, it says

Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the father is not in him. For all that is in the world – the desires of the flesh, the desires of the eyes and pride and possessions – is not from the father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.

This isn’t saying we can’t love anything in this world. It’s just saying that we shouldn’t be placing our hope, trust, and everything we have into these earthly things because if we hope in that, then we’ll pass away with this world.

You can describe happiness as a feeling of pleasure, or contentment, or comfort. But feelings are temporary. They come and go based upon our circumstances. Happiness isn’t a fiber of your being, because you can go from happy, to sad, to angry in a matter of minutes. But that’s not what defines you. Joy is the fiber and foundation of your soul. A joyful soul becomes the root of all your emotions. It has the power to peak light into any situation we ever face. Joy overcomes everything.

We may not always be happy, but we should always be joyful serving the Lord.


Embracing Personalities

July 20, 2017

How many of you guys are introverts? Extroverts? A little of both? I feel like I’m more of an introvert most of the time, but I’m also an extrovert when I need to be. I’ve always struggled because I like being outgoing and talking to people, but I would always feel super super drained after doing that kinda stuff.  I couldn’t really figure out why, because I just assumed I was an extrovert. Since figuring out I was a little more of an introvert, I kind of got discouraged & comparative (what girl isn’t?). I wanted to be outgoing all the time and be able to small talk with people easily. I watched a video a few months ago & it talked about comparison and strengths & weaknesses. I’m gonna be vulnerable and tell you guys what my weakness is. I feel like I compare myself a lot of the time to everyone around me, to situations, to personalities, and just a lot of things that I shouldn’t be. I know that other girls struggle with this a ton, and it’s a hard thing. We need to let go of who we think we should be to who we actually are. Our greatest weakness is a strength that’s redirected. So instead of comparing myself in a negative way, I’ve started to redirect my weakness & embrace others beauty & situations & personalities, instead of questioning my own. I hope you guys will do the same! I’m thankful Gods given me the strength and vulnerability to do it. I saw this post the other day and I HAVE to share it with y’all because it’s gold!

I’m not good at small talk, I literally get sweaty and awkward and it’s not pretty all the way around. It’s like I forget who I am and what words are. Actual words… gone from my mouth. I used to hate this about myself. It made me feel like I was a really bad at being a normal human. That was until I started to embrace my introvertedness. Introverts hate small talk because they would rather have a meaningful one on one conversation with people. It’s true. I would rather curl up on the couch with you and talk about your favorite outfit, the latest bachelorette episode and exactly why we could be pizza soul sisters. Loving to be around a ton of people or making small talk isn’t bad, its just not me and that’s ok! Embrace who you are!

Learning who we are and owning it is one of the most beautiful things we can do for ourselves. Still waters run deep, so sometimes it’s a great thing to just be quiet & observe what’s going on instead of saying every little thing that comes to mind. Being an extrovert isn’t bad either! I’m very much both, but embracing who we are and owning it is so important!



Ginnie Springs

July 14, 2017

We went to a spring this past week and it was so fun! If anyone is in northern Florida, you have to go! We were free diving in the caves, & it was so cool to see everything. I was a little freaked out before we went in because it was just freaky, but once we got in, it was awesome!

We went to 3 different caves, and all of them were so cool! That black spot in the second picture is a 40 ft deep cave. I only went down like 15 – 20 ft, but my brother in law swam all the down to the bottom… multiple times. The water is so clear & blue, and so pretty! It was freezing cold, like 72 degrees and it literally took your breath away when you got in. It was cold but so worth it.

It’s so awesome to see Gods creation in the world. I think His creation is meant to stop us in our tracks. The beauty of nature is busy drawing us to Christ.

Romans 1:20 says

For His invisible attributes, that is, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen since the creation of the world, being understood through what He has made. As a result, people are without an excuse.

God is good! Y’all have to go to a spring sometime! They’re amazing!

Hope you guys have a good week! <3




July 10, 2017

Hi friends! Sorry I haven’t been persistent in blogging lately! We’re on vacation & spending time with family & friends! I wanted to hit hard on this topic. People often tell us “You travel so much!”, and yes, we do. Young Living has given us so much freedom. My mom, aunt, grandma, and sister all started doing the business way before I did, and I’ve always had an interest in it, but never fullly jumped in til about 9 months ago. I thought these little essential oil bottles couldn’t really help with *that* much. And dang, i was waaaay off. The Essential Oils not only help with making us feel better, they do so many internal things. They support our immune, endocrine, nervous, skeletal, muscular, circulatory, & digestive systems. I personally want to help every single person feel their best and live the life Gods calling them to live. It’s so important to be feeding our body with healthy, pure, and natural things. It affects us way more than we think. A

In Young Living, they ask you to have a “Why”. When you’re having those times that you wanna give up and quit, your “why” is what keeps you going.

My Why –

Aside from helping people get to their best, and making them feel so much better, My first why is because I want to be the youngest Royal Crown Diamond. (I’m a red & competitive 😉 ). My second why is to travel and have freedom. Financial freedom. Young Livings income disclosure statement is incredible. Look it up if you haven’t seen it. (Literally mind blowing.) I want financial freedom so I don’t have to worry about money in the future. I want to be able to support myself and help and support so many other people. I want to open up ministries and help people get out of trafficking. Most importantly, I wanna give the glory back to God and do what He’s called me to do. Lots of people say “The love of money is the root of all evil”, which I agree with. But money in good hands, doing good things, is a good thing!

This company not only has oils, but so many supplements, foods, drinks, MAKEUP (!!!!), and so many other products that are 100% therapeutic grade. And that’s why I love it.

If you wanna hop on this crazy journey with me, I’m offering some things back when you get a starter kit! Here’s what you get in a Premuim Starter Kit –

  • 11 essential oils
  • Your choice of diffuser (they’re all GORGEOUS)
  • Ningxia (the best antioxidant drink)
  • Sampels of the oils
  • Resources
  • Sample bottles (so you can make your own recipes!)
  • 24% off wholesale discount from everything
  • A whole amazing oiler community. (They’re SO awesome!)

I hope you decide to join me on this crazy ride to freedom and wellness in every area of life! Leave a comment if you’re interested!



Fixing Your Eyes

June 29, 2017

Do you guys get stressed out a lot? I know that I do & I’m pretty sure it runs in our family. We’re mostly a go-with-the-flow family & don’t let little things bother us too much. But when stressful things happen, we tend to overthink, stress out & worry about every. little. thing. When stressful things happen, I usually think about everything that could go wrong. I worry about these earthly things, that I can’t really control. It makes me anxious & overwhelmed. But then this verse always comes to mind –

Set your mind on things above, not on earthly things.

I heard a quote one time that says “For every look at yourself, take 10 looks at Christ.”

Practicing this moves our eyes from the trial to the cross – to the promises God has given and the life He’s called us to live.

As I turn my mind from the messes inside and around me, to the face of Jesus, something shifts. I remember His love and how He covers me even when I’m a wreck. We’re all a mess & in need of Jesus, but Jesus isn’t afraid of our messes. Instead, He enters right in the middle of them.

I feel like a lot of the time, I struggle with the same junk over, and over, and over again. But each struggle is an opportunity to put off the old self and take hold of that which Jesus has already taken hold of for me.

When my heart is a mess, I get to choose how I think. I can choose to let the truth of God control my mind and heart, or I can choose to keep feeling defeated, and worthless, and terrible. But I choose to be thankful, even when life breaks my heart and doesn’t turn out like I wish it would.

We are Gods beloved children, redeemed by Him, and called by name, and that changed everything. Instead of focusing on ourselves today – on how we ache, or on how we wish things were different than they are, or on what we’ve done or left undone – let’s turn our eyes over toward the One who knows us best & loves us unconditionally.


Summer Travels Part 1!

June 23, 2017

We spent almost a week and a half in Utah and it was amazing! We went for the Young Living convention & to hang out with some of our family! Park City will always be one of my favorite cities!

I’m gonna share some of our adventures with y’all!

, From the convention, to hiking, to white water rafting, to Carrie Underwoods concert, to hot tubbin, to shopping, to In-N-Out to just exploring & hanging out with family, Utah was amazing. It’s one of my all time favorite places! It’s so so amazing nd beautiful!

Now we’re off to Texas!